Blogger Mindy Stern shared an article this month that hit home for many of us. She proposes that much of what the wider world knows about adoption is wrong. The primary adoption vernacular of “Better,” “Chosen,” and “Grateful” is an idealized version of adoption that not only is inaccurate but also harmful for the adoptees that adoption is trying to “save.” Adoption is so much more complex and filled with loss, with grief, with unknowing, love, joy, and pain. The author suggests that we all acknowledge what it is: if you are adopted, your life isn’t automatically better. It’s a different life, and that should be a good enough description. Adoptees, other members of the constellation and more importantly, those who don’t have a connection to adoption, should read Mindy’s full blog.  

Mindy Stern's article is posted on the website "Medium." From technology to business, true crime to climate change. Dive deeper on all the things you love, all in one place on Medium.